27 November 2009

A mystery I probably can't solve...


Earlier today I was scanning some old family photos. I took one of my great uncle, Royal Hoefler, out of its frame and behind it I found an apparently uncashed, but endorsed check for 10 cents made out to A.W. Dunn from the assistant Treasurer of the United States in Chicago, Ill.

The check isn’t dated, although there is a line for a date that apparently wasn’t filled in, but the check has a picture of William McKinley on the left side of the front. The name of the payee (“A.W. DUNN”), the amount (“TEN CENTS--”) and the voucher number (“238522”) are filled in by some sort of machine-generated type. The signature of the disbursing clerk who signed the check looks like “GeoG Box.”

There was a George G. Box who was serving in that role in the office of the secretary of the Department of Labor (in Washington, DC) in 1913 (according to the Official register of the United States, 1913, published by the U.S. Bureau of the Census), but by 1918 (according to the Report of the United States Housing Corporation, December 3, 1918, 1919) had moved on to become treasurer for the United States Housing Corporation.

So presumably the check was issued before 1918.

Royal was from Pine City, and with a little research I was able to determine that "A.W. Dunn" was most likely Alexander W. Dunn, Clerk of District Court in Pine City back in the early 20th century.

Royal Hoefler died of a ruptured appendix at age 21 in 1932, and according to a family tree on Ancestry.com, A.W. Gunn died the year before.

The check clearly had been folded in quarters for a time--one idea that crossed my mind is maybe Royal was carrying it around with him for some reason and had it in his pocket when he died--but guesswork is pretty much all I have.

So why Royal--or some other member of the family--would be in possession of that check, why it was endorsed (but not cashed) and what the connection between him and Gunn may have been are questions we may never answer. How it ended up behind the photo of Royal (who played football for the University of Minnesota and is shown in uniform) and why, may be a mystery we can't solve.

26 November 2009

Thanksgiving 2009

My mother sent around a nice Thanksgiving greeting this morning, so I figured I'd answer her note with a brief one of my own.

As often happens when I'm left to my own devices, my handful of comments quickly grew to something more like an essay--or at least a reflection on some of the things I'm thankful for, not just on this particular day, but year 'round.

While this may be less of general interest, it does touch on some folks whom other members of my extended family will recall, so I decided it might be worth posting here a slightly edited version of what I sent to Mom.

Mom wrote:
To all my family, near and far, I wish you ALL peace and happiness and love! May God always
watch over you and your loved ones and guide you in the path He has created for you. On this
day I remember those who have gone before us...especially Bumpa and Nanny and my Grandma
and Grandpa Brown, Aunt Mayme and Aunt Fran, and my godmother and dearly loved Beth.
I also remember Brian, who gave his life in the service of our country before he was even 20 years old. God's blessings on ALL of you!

Hey Mom--

Happy Thanksgiving to all of you as well. Please pass that along to the whole bunch up there. I hope Nick and the Nebraska boys all arrive safely. Hard to believe we haven't seen them for a holiday since that Thanksgiving you all came up to East Lansing back in 2001.

Interesting about Thanksgiving being the time when you remember those who've gone before us. Along with the cooking all day, it's become that for me, as well.

Sometime after Dad died, I started going outside after Thanksgiving dinner to smoke a cigar in his memory.

I soon realized that cigars also reminded me of Uncle John--I remember him smoking them pretty regularly back in the sixties, in the days when he and Aunt Eva would come down from Two Harbors in the summer and stay upstairs over at 1019.

And even though he never smoked, Grandpa soon found his way into those reminiscences as well.

I think it's because the three of them were the strongest influences on me and how I've tried to live my life and shaping my understanding of what it means to be a father and to be a man.

I know none of them were perfect--I still remember how stunned I was to hear Karen complain about Uncle John as a dad when she "ran away" to Stillwater a couple of times in her teens--but each of them was an example for me in his own way.

Like any kid growing up, I focused on the good I saw, the things I liked and wanted to be like, and the things I thought and hoped I had in common with each of them. So when people ask me who my role models were or who my heroes were, I always list those three.

It would be hard to explain all of the things and all of the ways that they influenced me, but I can try to sum them up.

Dad gave me the art talent (and the writing, although I suspect I get some of that from you, as well) that's carried me through my life, along with the understanding that creative work is something you have to work hard at in order to make a living. It's never really a very secure career, but you can carry it with you anywhere you go.

As tough as it can be sometimes, it's not just pounding nails, it's something that's a part of me, that comes from somewhere inside. And because it's personal like that, and something I enjoy doing, the "work"--even at times when there are long, seemingly endless hours of it--always has at least a small element of doing something I WANT to do and that I ENJOY doing. When I look around at my colleagues over the years, I know that's not a common a thing.

I never would have been a freelancer if not for dad. All of those money-making schemes he came up with under the auspices of Blue Dog Enterprises and the office he made of the front room at 1110 were there as examples for me when the St. Croix Boom Company first offered me work painting signs and designing flyers. Sure, I already had a job at the Lakewood, but the way I understood the workings of the world, that didn't preclude me taking on additional work. Heck, it seemed almost EXPECTED.

Uncle John taught me the value of being part of the larger community and reaching out to the people who were part of it. I remember spending a week up in Two Harbors with him and his family back in 1966 or 1967, and how he took me with him everywhere he went. And everywhere he went, people greeted him or stopped to talk--a simple trip to the store took at least twice as long because of all the socializing.

It just blew me away how he'd touched all of those people's lives in some way or another and how glad they all were to see him. So I've tried to become part of each community where we've lived as well--getting to know the neighbors, volunteering at the schools and churches, helping with the Girl Scout troops and activities and coaching softball--to give something back to the various communities of which we've been parts over the years.

And, of course, he was a teacher.

I know you always wanted me to be a teacher, and I don't recall whether I ever told you about the period back in Indiana when I worked as a substitute teacher for a while. I didn't find being in a classroom very rewarding--for the most part the kids were there because they HAD to be, not because they wanted to be. You had to overcome a lot just to get them to engage.

However, it was that experience and Uncle John's influence (albeit indirectly) that sort of propelled me into coaching. That was different, because those kids WANTED to learn how to play ball and function as a team, and those were things I enjoyed and believed in at a fundamental level.

Softball (like baseball) is an unusual sport in that it combines moments of individual accomplishment into an overall context of teamwork and players helping one another. You can't play it well and win without combining those two things. And when you have a bunch of kids who actually WANT to learn how to do that, it's some of the most rewarding "work" I've done--for almost 15 years, now.

And that gets me to Grandpa. He's the one who introduced me to baseball and was responsible for it becoming a lifelong passion in me.

At the time, I was too young to realize what a big deal it was to have a major league team in the Twin Cities, because for me, baseball didn't exist in my life before 1961. So his enthusiasm to watch or listen to the games--surely elevated to a large degree by the Twins arriving in Minnesota from DC that same year--was pretty contagious.

He (and Uncle John) explained the game to me, Grandpa dug out his two old mitts (lost forever when the old shed and garage collapsed) and taught me to throw and catch. So when you guys bought me my first glove, bat and ball for my birthday when I was in first grade, I already knew how to use them.

The other thing about Grandpa was his sense of humor and, the appearance at least, that life wasn't to be taken too seriously. I loved it when he teased us kids, popped out his false teeth or made up stories about "when [he] was a little girl." It was hilarious when he'd make fart sounds in the kitchen and then say "Myrtle, cut that out!" and she'd get so flustered.

Grandpa was another guy who loved to socialize, although most of what I remember of that was him sitting in his T-shirt at the kitchen table at 1019, drinking a cup of tea and chatting up whoever stopped by: the milkman, Barney, my cousin Greg Brown, Bob Reilly, and on and on. I got my lifelong love of tea from Grandpa as well.

One thing that all three of them were responsible for was teaching me to use tools, along with a kind of ethic about WHY. I expect a lot of that had to do with our modest means and the idea that when something broke, you fixed it.

Whether it was Grandpa and Uncle John tackling some job over at 1019 (or Grandpa over working on the plumbing at 1110) or Dad out in the garage in the middle of winter, trying to make some sort of repair on one of those second-hand cars he always drove, the message was clear: It CAN be fixed, and you should know how to fix it.

I sometimes refer to that as the family blessing and the family curse, because it's always harder to call a repairman if you think you might be able to fix whatever it is that's broken yourself.

But most of all, family was important to all of them.

We came together to mark every holiday (and sometimes it seemed like a holiday just because we came together), they worked hard to raise and support their families, and even when family members were far away, they stayed in touch and they kept those links alive.

So I think about all of that (and more) when I smoke my after-dinner cigar on Thanksgiving, and I wonder about what I might have learned from the others who came before me and what parts of them are stamped on my DNA, characteristics that I'm carrying forward without even knowing it.

Of course, those three didn't do it alone. They had families of their own--grandparents, parents, siblings, wives and kids who also played enormous roles in shaping who they were. And along with the DNA, those influences and traditions have filtered down through the years and surely have shaped who I (and all of us in the current generations) have become as well.

Doing genealogical research over the last few years, reading about and looking into the faces in the photos of those people makes makes me realize that parts of each of them and each of their lives live on in me, and will continue forward through my daughters.

While I can't know exactly what parts those are or might be, I'm thankful today--and everyday--for what all of them contributed to making me who I am, and for giving me all of that to pass along to my own kids.

"Black Friday" notwithstanding, Thanksgiving seems to be the holiday least affected by our changing world, still a time for family, still a time to sit down together and to recall the people, places and events that have made our lives richer.

So a Happy Thanksgiving to ALL of you-- both the family members acquired by birth and the family members we've chosen over the years.

I'm thinking of all of you today.
--
Best,
Mark

19 August 2009

If I were an action figure...

About 18 years ago, I was buying cheap Mexican bootlegs of the Kenner Super Powers action figures at a toy market in Mexico City, then customizing them into other characters. I stopped doing that around the time my oldest daughter was a few months old, but some years back, I posted pics of a bunch of my custom figures on my old Tripod website.

Anyhow, for a few years thereafter, I kept on picking up stray figures at garage sales, flea markets and even eBay, with the intention of getting back to customizing some day.

That day HAS NOT arrived, by the way.

But I did pick up a "Bob the Goon" figure back then (from the first "Batman" movie), thinking it looked like a good starting point for a custom action figure of myself.

Flash forward to last week: I ran across a fellow figure fanatic when I was up in Phoenix for a meeting at an agency my office has been working with for a while. They introduced this guy as being into action figures (oddly enough, they didn't tell me what he does for the company), so I mentioned I was also a fan, we chatted for a while, exchanged info and URLs, and suddenly I find myself participating in a form on the ActionFigureInsider.com website. (The weird thing is, I've had this site bookmarked for a year or so, after running across it while trying to find info on some Captain Marvel figure or other.)

Anyway, most of the participants in the forum have "avatars" to represent themselves, so I figured I should have one as well.

Re-enter "Bob the Goon," or at least a photo of his head, which I "digitally customized" into a reasonable facsimile of my own visage and uploaded as my avatar.

Now all I have to do is figure out which box out in the garage has the actual figure, get out the putty and paints, and do the same with the real one!

18 June 2009

Who people think I look like

I'm probably going to regret this (not the least reason for which would be the need to dig up the old photos of me to support what I'm about to talk about), but over the years folks have suggested that I look like a whole range of famous people.

When I was younger and had shoulder-length 9and beyond) hair, it was kinda flattering. They said i looked like Bob Seger.

When I got a little older and cut my hair, they started saying I looked like Kenny Rogers.

More recently, as I've gotten older and, er, more substantial, I started hearing comparisons to Dom DeLuise.

But then today an old friend of mine--Michelle Membrez--told me that my Facebook photo reminds he of Lakers coach Phil Jackson. I think that's moving in the right direction.

Anyway, now to go look for some photos...

30 November 2008

Our 2008 Christmas card

Kathleen and I aren't very good at sending Christmas cards. As a matter of fact, I'm trying to recall whether we EVER have managed to send out any during the nearly 19 years we've been married. Oh, we've bought some nice ones during that time and we've had good intentions in that regard, but well, somehow it always got to be January or February by the time we were ready to ACT on those intentions. So we'd always say, "Okay, next year then."

This year may actually turn out to be a little different. It's still November (barely), and while we haven't bought any Christmas cards, we nevertheless have one ready to go. It's not store-bought, though, it's a reproduction – or maybe "adaptation" is a better word – I made of a Christmas card from 1943.

Let me back up a bit and explain.

Over the past 8 or 9 years, I've written up a small handful of stories for my kids – time travel stories that feature the older two girls. I started when Emmy came home one day from second grade and was sitting in a chair crying. She told me the reason was because she'd finished all the "Magic Treehouse" books and there were no more to read.

What could I do? I read a couple of them to see how they were put together, then wrote the first two "Time Scouts" books with Emmy and Rosie having their own adventures in the past. It wasn't entirely altruistic--I also saw an opportunity to teach them some history, something I've really grown to love as I've gotten older.

Anyhow, the first one took them back to the day during the age of dinosaurs when the asteroid hit the Yucatan. That took me a day to write. The second had them spend Good Friday 1865 with Tad Lincoln, and because I wanted to do some research first, it took me a week to finish. I started a third one, that has them and a couple of neighbor boys from Indiana in New York City on Sept. 30, 1927, but after a month or so of writing and researching, I put that one on hold because I was having problems finding some of the info I needed to finish it. So I started the fourth one, the one I've been working on and researching for something like five years now, where they travel back to the homefornt during WWII at Christmastime in 1943 and meet their grandmother when she was their age.

I think my problem is that I like doing the research as much (or maybe more) than I do the actual writing. I have the whole story mapped out, I have a cardboard box and numerous digital folders full of research, but I also have a bunch of eBay notifications set up that let me know every day if certain kinds of popular culture artifacts from Christmas 1943 turn up for auction. Mostly, I copy the images and have built a pretty extensive library of them to give me some idea what the world and the things in it looked like back then. But occasionally I'll also bid on something that strikes my fancy.

I did that a couple of months back when I saw an auction for a lot that contained a small pile of Christmas cards dating from 1943. I won them for a ridiculously low price – I think the shipping cost more than the cards – and when they arrived, one in particular really jumped out at me.

When we moved out here, we rented a house (until we can sell ours up in Michigan) that has an oasis-like back yard, with a kidney-shaped pool, palm and citrus trees and beautiful landscaping. The Realtor had a great photo of it posted on the Web as part of the listing when we were first looking. And one of those 1943 Christmas cards had a picture on the front that could have been a drawing of that same view! The only problem was, it said, "A Merry Christmas from California" and we're here in Arizona.

I've been reading a little about the history of Arizona, and many of the writers compare what's been going on here over the the last few decades to the growth boom in California back in the 1940s. Some even refer to the Phoenix area as "L.A. II," and with all of the palm trees, the desert setting and endless freeways, one can see the similarities.

Anyway, that card inspired me. I tossed it on the scanner, cleaned it up a bit and changed "California" to "Arizona." It was a simple matter to find some appropriate ivory-colored paper and envelopes at Staples to give my new card a slightly aged appearance. Right now I'm contemplating whether to scan a sheet of 1943 Christmas Seals I bought in another eBay auction and include a reproduction of one on my envelopes as well, for the full retro-Christmas experience.

So if I have your mailing address, watch your mailbox. If I don't, send me a note and I'll try to get one of these out to you this year. And if I fail at that – remember, we've never really been good at mailing out Christmas cards – remind me and I'll e-mail you a PDF.

However this turns out, it's been a fun exercise and an opportunity for me to wish all of our friends and family a Merry Christmas or a Happy Channukah or just offer the Season's Greetings and our best wishes for the New Year.
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31 October 2008

Halloween again!


Wow, the gaps between posts here have gotten longer and longer. Last time I wrote anything we were still up in Michigan. Now we're enjoying an Arizona Halloween with the temperature in the high eighties.

One thing we've noticed is that no one puts out jack-o-lanterns early the way they do up north. With the weather as warm as it its here, they'd probably spoil pretty fast, and while rotting pumpkins WOULD be scary, I'm not sure we'd want to deal with the insect life they might attract.

There also doesn't seem to be the same amount of house and yard decoration going on here that we're used to seeing up north. Not sure why that is--it would work even better here, since Arizona doesn't go on daylight savings time, so the sun sets even earlier than what we were used to.

Anyhow, the main purpose of posting today is to get a photo of my Halloween-crazed wife up here. Two years back I managed to get the "Married to a Vulcan" posted, but last year I missed getting a photo of her in her costume. The good news is, since we moved and no one here saw her in it last year, she's doing a rerun. (Probably be a good opportunity to go back and revisit some of the other costumes of Halloweens past in coming years as well.)

So without further ado, there she is, Kathleen the Riveter!

19 April 2008

My old baseball glove

Okay, this will be a quick one. I've already forgotten exactly how I happened to find the photo of the glove in my previous post here. I suppose I Googled "Hawthorne baseball glove" or something like that.

I know this much: It found it as part of an auction on eBay. And since I no longer had my old glove – I thought I'd left it at Mom's house, but when I last went looking for it in early 1980, it was nowhere to be found – OF COURSE I had to bid on it.

I was the only bidder – who else would want a 45 year-old baseball glove from Wards? – and won it for $2.99. I'll have to dig up an old Wards catalog, but I bet that was around what it cost back then.

It was a little more expensive if you add in the $7 it cost to ship it to me and the glove conditioner I picked up for $3. But how do you put a price on nostalgia?

I used up about half the conditioner, stuck a ball in the pocket, wrapped a couple of fat rubber bands around it and let it sit for a few days.

Then, about 45 minutes ago, I dug a baseball out of the garage and made my middle daughter (who pitches on the varsity softball team) go outside and play catch with me. After about 5 minutes, she blew the lacing out in the pocket, even though she wasn't throwing very hard.

I had to come in and fix it, then we went back out and threw for about 10 more minutes. This time the glove stood up okay.

It felt just like my old glove, and even though it looks like something out of an old baseball movie, it caught the ball just fine. It's hard to describe the feeling of being out there and throwing with one of my daughters, using a mitt that was such a tangible link back to my childhood.

I probably need someone like W.P. Kinsella to try to explain what that connection feels like when you play catch with your kid, then think back to when you were the kid and it was your dad or your grandfather out in the yard playing catch with you. Whatever it is, it's good.

Oh, and since this glove is less worn than mine was when I last saw it, I still can read the model number on it. It's a Hawthorne 60-4076, near as I can tell, a not-particularly-distinguished glove that's pretty much been forgotten. Google it and see – no hits.

Well, that's not quite right. There should be at least one now, since I remember it, was out in the yard playing catch with it (and my daughter) a few minutes ago, and will be posting this to my blog in a few seconds. So the name of the Hawthorne 60-4076 will live SOMEWHERE on the Internet or the archives of the Internet for as long as there's an Internet. And with luck, maybe someday my daughter will be out in the yard throwing with her daughter or son, maybe even using this old glove.

28 March 2008

Baseball memories

I was reading the coverage of the Minnesota Twin on the Minneapolis StarTribune site this morning, and ran across an article that talks about how some of the current Twins players got started playing ball, as kids. The comments section was full of other fans recalling their own childhood experiences learning about baseball and how to play ball, and that got me thinking about mine.

Baseball first popped up on my radar when, in 1961, I was at my grandparents house and saw a box of Post Toasties with cut-out baseball cards on the back. Having lived in Northern Ireland for a good part of my young life (we returned in 1959), I had no idea what baseball was. My grandpa, who played city ball when he was younger and who, I discovered, was a great baseball fan, explained it to me as best he could.

He let me cut out the cards, even though there was still cereal in the box, and I remember going outside with my new treasures in hand, to show them off to any of the other neighborhood kids who might be outside.

The only card I remember from that batch is Jerry Lumpe, then of the Kansas City Athletics. He was my favorite, because, as i recall, he'd scored more runs than any of the other players on the back of that particular box. Not that I had a clear idea exactly what runs might be. But it sounded good.

I went out to stand by a big elm tree where the sidewalk on Hancock Street met the the driveway at the back of my grandparents house--a spot where the grown-ups could see me and from where I might see some of the other kids. There was a puddle on the sidewalk there, where the pavement had buckled a little, that looked like a square head with a rectangular nose . That Jerry Lumpe card and the puddle on that gray spring day are where my lifelong love of baseball began.

I think it was Ronny Bastyr, who lived a few houses down Fourth Street, who happened by. I showed him the cards, he showed me some other ones he had (in those days kids carried baseball cards around in their pockets, we didn't keep them in ring binders with Mylar sleeves around them) and I seem to recall that we traded a one or two. That was it, I was hooked.

As it happened, that was the same spring that the Washington Senators arrived in Minnesota and became the Twins, so there was a lot of baseball talk going on, even though as a kindergartener, I didn't understand a lot of it. But my grandpa and my uncles watched the Twins whenever they were on TV and it seemed like there were radios tuned to the games in every basement and garage. Evenings, you could walk down the street and follow a game, just listening to the sound of the broadcasts coming from the front porches and open windows.

And eventually, I found a Minnesota Twin or two on the backs of other cereal boxes (and Jell-O boxes too!). They became my favorites, and Jerry Lumpe was forgotten.

Naturally, I wanted to try PLAYING baseball. So my grandpa dug out a couple of his old mitts and took me out in the side yard to throw. One was a big, overstuffed catcher's mitt with a patch on the top front where the leather had worn through, and the other was a small fielder's glove. Both dated from the early 1900s, so the catcher's mitt didn't flex at all and the fielder's mitt had no webbing and was barely larger than an adult hand.

On the other hand, I'd never seen a baseball glove before, so those were just fine with me. And I learned to throw and catch.

Over the course of the summer, I discovered that the other kids in the neighborhood had very different kinds of baseball gloves--bigger, with some sort of pocket between the thumb and index finger, and a kind of hinge that let you flex it closed to hold the ball. But by that time, the season was over and everyone was putting away their gloves and starting to play touch football in the side yards.

By the following spring, I discovered that baseball cards weren't just something you could get off the backs of cereal boxes, you could also BUY a two-sided variety that came in a pack of five with a stick of gum. These could be found on the candy rack at Hooley's Supermarket, just a block down the street. Even better, Kearney's Grocery--on the corner opposite Hooley's--carried penny packs, with one card and a stick of gum in each. So for your nickel, you could get five cards AND five sticks of gum! It was a great world, and I think I'd probably had my first lesson in economics.

For my birthday that spring, my parents got me my first baseball glove—a Hawthorne, with a "Snag-Em" pocket— a 31-inch black bat (the handle of which I taped with white adhesive tape) and a brand-new baseball, all from "Monkey Wards." I'd take those to school with me and join in the games we played on the fields out back and down below the hill.

I think it was that summer when we began playing two-on-two or three-on-three out in our side yard. Most of the houses in our neighborhood were on double lots, and all of the ones that had kids also seemed to have something resembling an elongated baseball diamond worn into the grass--longer from home plate to second than they were from first base to third, because that was the shape of the yards.

Danny Swanson was my next-door neighbor, living in the house behind us, and he had such a field worn into his yard, but because he was the third child, his parents had already endured years of torn-up grass and broken windows. So we weren't allowed to play over there (although we WERE allowed to throw the ball around, just not hit it).

So we made a field in our yard instead.

Home plate was a spot we picked that we figured was far enough back that every pitch we missed wouldn't necessarily roll into the street, but close enough to the sidewalk that there'd be enough yard for the rest of the field. I asked my grandpa to make me a "real" home plate out of a scrap of white formica countertop he had in the basement, and he complied. It was only about half the size of a real one, but I was a kid, it was white, shiny and the right shape, and I was thrilled.

First base was next to a birch tree over by the house. We wore away the grass there, and occasionally put down a scrap of wood or a piece of cardboard, but mostly we just used the worn spot. You couldn't really overrun first, though, without getting a face-full of tree.

Second base was set far enough back so an infielder wouldn't get killed by a batted ball, but where we'd still have room for an outfield, in line with home plate.

Third base was next to a maple tree, right at our property's edge, so any foul balls usually went into Campbell's yard.

Fouls on the first base side were problematic because that's where our house was, with windows, windows, windows all along the side, and we rarely got the storm windows down and the screens (which offered SOME protection) up as early as when we started playing out there each year. Fortunately, we all were right-handed hitters, so we didn't hit a lot over toward the house, but we did manage to break 2 or 3 windows over the years.

When we played, we never needed a shortstop because there was a big elm tree there. And there was a picket fence between Swanson's yard and ours. We confidently said any ball hit over that fence would be a home run, but none of us was able to actually hit one there until we were older and long-since had outgrown the dimensions of our side yard fields.

The first year I remember playing out there we had two "permanent" teams: Danny Swanson and Earl Gersting (who as a year older than us, and lived just up the street, on the other side of Campbell's house) versus Pat Junker (whose dad was the local candy supplier and had a big candy warehouse in their back yard, a block down from us) and me.

We pitched slow and hit as hard as we could and had a pretty good time.

Sometimes Kenny Campbell, one of the older kids in the neighborhood, whose bedroom faced our yard, would open his window and act as our umpire, or at least try to settle the inevitable arguments about fair or foul, safe or out.

Kenny also had a baseball-like game that he and the older guys played in his back yard.

Campbells had a big house, that was set pretty far back on their lot. And the lot itself extended the width of the block, from Third Street to Fourth Street. The house had seen at least two shed-like additions on the back, and there also was a small four-unit apartment building set right up against the sidewalk on the Fourth Street side. Between the sheds and the apartments was a big dirt driveway/parking area.

Kenny had chalked a strike zone on the shed door facing that area and had paced off where a pitcher's mound should be. There were no bases--the apartments were probably only 30 feet behind him to his left, and the driveway out to Fourth Street was on his right. Behind him and farther to his right was a hedge that ran along the edge of the property.

Kenny would spend hours out there throwing a tennis ball at that strike zone. When others of the older kids were around--Kurt or David Swanson, Ronny Minks--they'd step in and bat against him, using a broomstick with an electrical tape grip to try to hit. Kenny would call balls and strikes, based on where his pitches hit in or out of the chalked strike zone. If he walked you or you actually hit the ball, you got a ghost runner. If you managed to hit the ball over the hedge, it was a home run and you cleared the bases.

At first we younger guys were only allowed to watch. But as we got older and learned to hit better, he'd let us bat as well. At least when the older guys weren't around.

Kenny was also the guy who was responsible for my first cache of older baseball cards. In those days, last year's cards weren't particularly valued. They'd end up in bicycle spokes or parked in a drawer or even just thrown away. But I didn't care what year they were from--I had the collecting mania even then, and was learning about baseball and teams and even some history from them. So word got back to Kenny that I'd trade "this year's" for older cards. Because the older ones were considered worthless, I got something like 5 for 1 and ended up with a bunch of random Topps (and a few Fleer) cards going back to 1958.

One of the cashiers down at Hooley's, Mary Gedatus, also took note of my enthusiasm for baseball cards. She mentioned that her older son had a bag full of them that he'd left behind when he moved out, and asked if I'd like them. Of course, I said yes! She said she'd bring them in, so for about a week, I went down to Hooley's every day and asked if she'd done so. Finally, she told my mother that I was "hounding" her about the cards and Mom told me to stop. The next time I was in the store I didn't ask Mary about the cards, but she brought them up and told me if I'd stop by her house (which was only a couple of blocks away) she'd give me the cards.

I still remember her handing me that crumpled paper bag. In it were both Topps and Bowman cards going all the way back to 1952.

Anyway, as a postscript to that story, I probably should explain what eventually happened to all of those cards, plus the ones I continued buying through 1969. At some point in maybe 1968, Danny Swanson and I combined our baseball card collections. We counted more than 4,000 cards, dating all the way back to those early Bowmans I'd gotten from Mary Gedatus. But there wasn't a single complete season set among them.

In 1969, when the New York Mets won the World Series, Danny and I decided we'd seen it all. The Mets had been the expansion team and punching bag of the National League for most of our childhoods, and now they were the world champions. (And the Twins STILL weren't.) We figured this was some sort of cosmic sign and we needed to do something to recognize it.

So we called all the younger kids in the neighborhood together, took our box of baseball cards out in the back yard, and started throwing them up in the air, telling the kids to take whatever they wanted. Then we raked up the rest, mixed with the leaves that had fallen from the trees, and... Well, I'm not entirely sure what we did with them. I could guess, but my guess would make anyone who collects cards from that era really cringe.

A year or so later, I ran across a small box--not that it matters, but it was a box that some plates had come in--filled with random cards that somehow survived--maybe a couple hundred, total. And not long after that, while looking through the want ads for people selling comic books (my latest collecting obsession), I ran across an ad from a guy who wanted to BUY old baseball cards. I called him, told him what I had, and he drove out from St. Paul to look at them. He offered me $25 for the boxful. I was stunned that they were worth that much, but gladly took his money. Looking back, I suppose they were worth a lot more, but at the time, they were all but worthless to me. So that $25 was like found money, at a time when I was earning $15 a week as an usher/janitor down at the Auditorium Theatre.

Anyway, there's fresh snow on the ground here in East Lansing, even though it's baseball season again. When I was a kid, and the side yard was our baseball field, we often got out there to start playing when there was still snow on the ground, but spring training was under way and we just couldn't wait any longer. And usually the grass was still brown on opening day as well (if it wasn't still under the snow). But we always thought it would be cool if we could go out and paint it green, like they did over at old Metropolitan Stadium. Because the grass SHOULD be green when it's baseball season.

28 February 2008

Oak Park Elementary School

A while back, I got interested in trying to get in touch with some of the "kids" (people now in their early 50s) I went to school with back at Oak Park Elementary School during the early 1960s. I subscribed to Classmates.com and sent out e-mails to folks whose names I remembered or recognized, and got a handful of replies.

Life has been busy, so I haven't really followed up. My plan is to scan a couple of old class pictures that I have in hand--a couple of mine and a couple that used to belong to the late Jim Crea--and post those somewhere online. But one of the things I COULDN'T find anywhere was a photo of Oak Park School as it was when I attended, starting in 1960. Repeated Google Image searches came up empty and so did searches of eBay and other sites where I might have been able to locate a photo of the school on an old postcard.

Well, this morning I finally found the darn thing--a postcard with a 1959 photo of the front of the school, which I immediately ordered from a dealer out in Colorado. The reason I hadn't been able to find it before was because the card is mislabeled--as "Oak School, Stillwater, Minn."

If anyone else from Stillwater happens to run across and read this post, look around and see if you have any other photos or from back in the day--people, houses, buildings, street scenes, postcards, whatever. I'd love to get scans or copies and would be happy to post them here. (Or maybe even on a site devoted to "old Stillwater," if I can ever find time to work on it...)

31 October 2006

Married to a Vulcan

Last year it was the Bride of Frankenstein, this year I find that I'm married to a Vulcan...

If I can get some pics of Captain Hook, Belle and the Genie, I'll put those up here later. Me? No costume this year--I think I'll just stay home and lament how few trick-or-treaters show up on our street. (We're too deep in the student neighborhood, I guess...) Then I'll eat all the candy we didn't give away!

20 October 2006

More Time Traveling

YouTube continues to amaze me. For years I've talked about the kid shows I used to watch on TV when we lived in Northern Ireland back in the late fifties. Five or six years ago, I tracked down sort of a mom-and-pop operation that offered a handful of examples on VHS, and picked that up. Of course I have no idea where that tape is now.

So today I was looking for something else on YouTube and ran across examples of the five different segments that were part of "Watch with Mother" back in 1957-59. Each day there was a different feature, most of them featuring some kind of puppet. Here they are--the Monday show, "Picture Book," is the opening credits only.

MONDAY:


TUESDAY:


WEDNESDAY:


THURSDAY:


FRIDAY:


How about that?

Oh, one more thing. On Saturdays I watched the show that shaped my image of what life was like back in the good old USA--well, at least until I got back there and discovered that they didn't all live out on the prairie and in log cabins after all...

25 August 2006

How well do you know me?

UPDATE: Feb. 28, 2008 – The links I had in this post go no place anymore, so I deleted them. But going back and rereading some of my old posts reminded me that I had one sitting in draft form that I hadn't posted it, nearly a year and a half ago. It's "Saravilla," below.


ORIGINAL POST: I'm still sitting on a post I wrote nearly three weeks ago about a GREAT bed and breakfast where Kathleen and I stayed for a few days. I want to include some photos, though, and I'll have to find time to do that.

Meanwhile, my oldest daughter posted a quiz about how well the person taking it knows her, and I only scored a miserable 8 out of 10! So I made my own quiz and now am challenging HER to see how well she knows ME. (And anyone else who wants to take a shot at it is welcome as well.)

07 August 2006

Saravilla

Last week, Kathleen and I took our first vacation without the kids in 15½ years. Most of the credit goes to her, really, because when she realized that all three of the girls would be away at camps for a week in August, she immediately set about arranging something for us to do.

Since two if them were up at Mystic Lake for band camp, and the other was at Deer Trails for Girl Scout camp, it seemed like a good idea to go somewhere in that same neck of the woods, but far enough away that we wouldn't feel like "helicopter parents," hovering over our kids, ready to land at the slightest provocation.

Anyway, she came up with a bed & breakfast in Alma (an appropriate name for a place we went to sort of reinvigorate our spirits, after a particularly busy few months), a place by the name of Saravilla, owned and operated by Jon and Linda Darrow. (Initially, Kathleen was bothered because they pronounced the name the way it looks, rather than as "sara-veeya" as it would be in Spanish. But there's a reason for that, that i'll get to below.)

From the pictures on the Saravilla website, it looked to me like a Victorian Queen Anne house, but Jon and Linda said it was actually Dutch Colonial (which is actually German, as in "Deutsch") because of some of the additions and architectural changes over the years. It doesn't really matter what name you call it by, it was a wonderful, beautifully kept-up house.

A lot of places of that vintage seem to have a kind of museum quality to them—you're not really comfortable settling in or sitting on the furniture. That's not at all the case with Saravilla, partly because of the way it's decorated to feel like a home, not so much a showpiece (although it IS a showpiece); but more because Jon and Linda make you feel as though you're visiting friends and that you're guests in their home, not just customers. And to me, that makes all the difference in the world.

We stayed in the Ammi Wright Suite, which is just as richly appointed and sun-drenched as the photos below from the website makes it appear. (And yes, that's a whirlpool big enough for two in the bathroom—maybe not authentic in terms of the age of the place, but a darn nice place to unwind after a day of traipsing through antique stores and book shops!)

Normally, I'm the guy who dives into the history of a place, but this time it was Kathleen. I was too preoccupied doing nothing, or when that got to be too much, reading a book or working on my story.

So it was Kathleen that grabbed a pile of stuff from the library that sketched out the history of the place: some background on Ammi Wright (a colorful 19th century lumber baron), why the house is called "Saravilla" (because Ammi Wright built the place as a "summer cottage" and wedding present for his daughter, Sara), tales of its many and varied uses and incarnations over the years, and lots and lots of photos documenting most of them.

Anyway, i've had this post sitting here, unsent since August 7, 2006, so I suppose it's time to post it.

28 July 2006

The next Spielberg...?

And now for something completely different...

So now my middle daughter, Weem, is a moviemaker. Here's her latest effort, starring a bunch of her friends, her sisters, and a couple of Hitchcock-like cameos of herself...

27 July 2006

Time traveling

So it's been a million years since I posted something here—looking back, I see that my last entry coincides approximately with girls' summer softball gearing up. So probably no surprise in that. And coincidentally, my older two daughters just played their last game of the summer on Tuesday night.

Anyway, I've sort of been traveling in time lately. Mostly I've been hanging around in the past: reseaching part of 1943 and 1905 for a story I've been working on. I started off just poking around online, next I was borrowing stuff from libraries and historical societies, and now I'm buying books and other ephemera that fit in with my research. The way I explain it to Kathleen is that the more immersed I become in the era, the more I can "see" it, and then it becomes easier for me to move characters around within it. So now the only trick is to move them around in interesting ways, I guess.

Yesterday I got a 1943 St. Paul telephone book in the mail, a book from the past. I opened it up, and there was my grandfather, living on Sherburne Street. He had about 16 more years to live. And there were some of my other grandfather's siblings living over on Simon. I was still a dozen years in the future, and my parents were teenagers and hadn't even met.

Today, I ordered a book from the future. There's an "alternate history" series called The Axis of Time, written by an Australian author by the name of John Birmingham. It's a trilogy, and the first two books are in print, with the third due in January 2007. But I just discovered that it's due to hit the racks in Australia on August 1st, just a few short days from now. Then I went to Birmingham's blog, Cheeseburger Gothic, and found out it was actually already in stores over there. So I ordered a copy online from an Australian outfit named Dymocks Booksellers. It took me a few minutes to figure out how to convert Australian dollars to US dollars, but I muddled through. So in a few days (they ship via DHL Courier Service) I should be getting a much anticipated book from the future, a good five months before it's available here.

I stumbled across another link to the past earlier today. I was checking out the Baseball Weekly website, and I noticed an article there about current fans campaigning to get ballplayers from the past into the Hall of Fame. One of those is Buck Weaver, famous as one of the "Eight Men Out" accused of trying to throw the 1919 World Series in what became known as the "Black Sox" scandal.

I've always been interested in the "Black Sox" scandal because my great uncle, Ray Hoefler, was signed by the Sox for the 1921 season after the "Eight Men Out" were banned for life by baseball's first Commissioner, Judge Kenesaw Mountain Landis.

Uncle Ray never played, at least not in the major leagues. He was apparently a pretty good ballplayer in the local leagues up around Ely, Minnesota. But after being invited to spring training in Waxahachie, he put out his eye in a hunting accident, apparently kept that from the team for a couple of months in hope that he'd recover (claiming an ankle injury), then was released later that spring when he told them the rest of the story.

I have the original letter inviting him to spring training and the one releasing him; my cousin has two others that fell in between. They're on beautiful, embossed Chicago White Sox letterhead and are supposedly signed by Charles M. Comiskey himself. The problem is, they're two very different signatures on the letters I have, and I haven't ever compared them to the ones my cousin has. It would be nice if one of them were authentic, although I suppose there's just as much chance that both were signed by someone in the office and Comiskey never touched them.

I've also got a clipping from some newspaper—I'm guessing it might have been The Sporting News, but it's not identified in any way—showing Uncle Ray's name on the White Sox roster that spring.

Anyway, Uncle Ray was a third baseman, so he would have been stepping into Buck Weaver's spot had he played.

As a kid, I always thought it was terribly unfair that Uncle Ray never got to play for the White Sox, but ultimately it was an accident that left him with a glass eye and a good story to tell. But when I got older and read about the 1919 White Sox team, I realized that the guy he would have replaced was Buck Weaver.

Weaver was never accused of taking money from the gamblers as some of the others were. His "crime" was knowing that some of them did and not telling anyone about it. Imagine if ballplayers today could be banned for life for knowing another ballplayer was breaking the rules. Who'd be left? Anyway, it seems to me that Buck Weaver got a raw deal, and his exit from Major League baseball was more of an injustice.

So I went to the website listed in the story and added my name to the petition to get Buck Weaver reinstated and into the Hall of Fame where he belongs. Not much I can do for Uncle Ray, except maybe tell his story and think about what might have been. Maybe that's why I like those "alternate histories."

Finally, about 15 years ago I was playing an early, statistics-driven computer baseball game, MicroLeague Baseball. I played and replayed that 1919 series, and the Cincinnati Reds still won it every time! I know that doesn't prove anything, but still, it seems like some things apparently were just meant to be.

11 April 2006

Hey, Mom's doing okay!

So my oldest daughter and I spent five days up in Minnesota last week so we could visit Mom in the hospital, while she was recovering from her heart attack, quadruple bypass and valve replacement.

Last I saw her, she was looking surprisingly good. And my sister, Betsy, called yesterday to let me know Mom (that's her in the photo) had indeed left the hospital and was heading home.

And that's a good thing.

While I was very happy with the work the surgeon did, as well as the support Mom got from some of the nurses and staff, overall the experience was an incredibly frustrating one, particularly from the vantage point of communication and getting and conveying information.

I don't think I ever talked to the same person—and this includes doctors, nurses, PCAs, social workers, hospital administrators or anyone actually associated with her care—on two consecutive days until the last day we were there. (Wait, I take that back. The lady at the booth in the parking ramp was the same one every day. And by the second day, she remembered me.)

Anyway, every conversation had to start at the beginning—there didn't seem to be any sort of institutional memory or sharing of information among the people involved in Mom's care. It was like dealing with a bunch of one-person terrorist cells: No individual knew enough to give away what was actually going on. (Once I even had to tell the new nurse after the shift change when Mom last had her medication, because the previous nurse had neglected to note it in her chart.)

So the revolving cast of characters made it incredibly difficult to get anything done or to follow up once we'd tried to accomplish something.

For example, we needed to get some medical equipment for when Mom went home—including a hospital bed—and were told we needed to talk to either the care coordinator to arrange it. I did that on Tuesday, and he said he'd write up an order for "the doctor" to sign. Of course Mom was seeing so many doctors, he wasn't sure which one that might be, but he assured me he'd get it done. He also indicated we'd have a sort of evaluation before she was discharged to assess what all she might need in the way of other equipment. (That never happened, at least not when any of us were around.)

Still, byFriday morning (when we initially thought they were going to discharge her), Mom somehow had acquired a walker with a wheel that didn't turn, a long shoehorn, a tube-like gizmo for putting on her socks and the grown-up's version of what my youngest daughter calls her "Galactic Grabber," a tool for picking stuff up without bending down.

But we also were told that Mom didn't qualify for a hospital bed because she was on Medicare. Never mind that the guy told me on Tuesday that as long as the doctor said it was a medical necessity, she would get one. (And the guy assured me that the doctor would sign anything he wrote up.) So my sister went out and picked up medical equipment on her own—bathtub seat, rails, etc.

Back at the hospital, I asked whether they'd checked if Mom's supplemental insurance would cover the bed, and was told I needed to talk to the care coordinator again. But of course it was his day off, and his assistant was nowhere to be found either. So we found a social worker who was covering for both of them, and thank heavens, she was actually willing to do some checking.

Turned out that no one had written up any order for a hospital bed at all. No one had actually checked with Medicare and cited my mother's specific circumstances, nor had anyone checked her other insurance. No one had done anything about it.

So we scrambled to get a bed ordered and delivered, thinking that Mom would be going home on Saturday, and since it was too late in the week (and the day) to get a real answer from either Medicare or her insurance, my sister had to agree to cover the rental costs if the insurance companies refused.

Meanwhile, it turned out that Mom had been asking her nurse to check her leg (the one where they took the veins for the grafts) since Wednesday. It was swelling up, the toes hurt, and now it was getting red and warm to the touch. We got the nurse's attention at the change of shifts, and she turned out to be the most efficient and diligent nurse I'd seen all week. Her name was Melissa, and she examined Mom's leg, made the appropriate noises and comments, and immediately called the surgeon. Within an hour Mom was on antibiotics again, with the surgeon coming in to check her leg first thing in the morning. Yep, it was an infection.

But of course that meant Mom wasn't getting out on Saturday either.

It also meant that we needed to figure out which doctor actually would discharge her: the surgeon, the cardiologist, the diabetes specialist or the "hospitalist." So we asked, and naturally we got two different answers: one said the hospitalist, the other said the surgeon. We decided to trust that it would be the surgeon because he actually was looking at both her and her chart on a regular basis, so we felt like he was in the best position to know what was going on. And the ever-efficient Melissa confirmed that. If only there had been 20 others like her.

Anyway, it all worked out in the end. Mom not only survived the heart attack and the surgery, she weathered some of the most indiffeent care I've ever seen and now is home (with her new laptop) and seems to be on the road to a complete recovery. In the end, the surgery probably made her better than she was, and with the artificial valve, there's a good argument for referring to her as the Bionic Mom from here on.

31 March 2006

Where we are today

So my office is on the fourth floor of a 90 year-old building. I have a great view from up here, but only on cloudy days. When the sun is out, I have to keep the blinds closed or the light just washes out my computer screen. On the upside, there are something like 250 cloudy days per year up here in Michigan (if only they'd dig a canal along the southern border with Ohio, Indiana and Illinois, it would be an island), so I get to have the blinds open quite a bit.

My window isn't original equipment—if I had to guess, I'd bet that this floor was an attic when the place was first built, so it's not much window compared to what you find on the lower floors—but it's not particularly new either. It's basically an ill-fitting aluminum slider with some sort of tinting film on the outside that's peeling off and that has a couple of whistles when the wind blows (in not-quite-harmony). And the wind is blowing today.

That's where I am.

In about half an hour, I'm going to call the hospital up in Minnesota to see where (and how) Mom is today. Last I heard they had her temperature down and were actually thinking about taking her off the ventilator. She apparently was more responsive yesterday—turning her head and nodding in answer to yes and no questions—and in general it sounded like she was making positive, if incremental progress. So that's good.

29 March 2006

Enervating days

"Enervating" is the adjective that probably best describes the last week or so — and no, I'm not going to send you looking for a dictionary like I usually do to find out what it means (on the off-chance that you don't already know). Here's the entry from Dictionary.com:

adj. (Ä­-nĂ»r´vÄ­t) Deprived of strength; debilitated.

My mom had a heart attack last Monday night. She survived it, but they transferred her from the local hospital to a cardiac care unit in the Twin Cities for more tests, where they decided that she was going to need multiple bypass surgery. I found out on Tuesday, and Kathleen drove me over to Chicago on Wednesday morning, then my older brother Mike and I headed up to Minnesota together that same day. (BTW, I did not take a suit with me, and neither did Mike.)

Initially, they told us the surgery was scheduled for Thursday morning, so we figured we had to be up there by Wednesday night. We went straight to the hospital, and when we got in, we found out they'd canceled Thursday morning and were now saying Friday because they hadn't completed all of the tests. She had eight blockages, and they were talking about repairing five of them. They were also contemplating a repair or replacement of a valve and maybe cleaning out her carotid arteries as well.

By Thursday morning they had the other test results, but canceled Friday's surgery in order to allow her get stronger and to coordinate a bit more among her various doctors and the surgeons. They rescheduled the surgery for this Tuesday. I'd been off work since Wednesday (and wasn't much good to anyone after I found out on Tuesday), and at that point I pretty much knew I wasn't going to be able to stay through the weekend and stick around for the surgery.

So we spent as much time as we could at the hospital with her, then my brother and I headed back to the Chicago area late Friday afternoon. I caught the Amtrak back to East Lansing on Saturday and got in about 8:30 Saturday night.

It seems like it was an incredibly long few days. I didn't have Internet access up there—we stayed at the house of a friend of Mike's who lives out in the country, and although he had a wireless network in the house, he was out of town for a snowshoe race in Vermont and we neglected to ask him for the key. It was an old DSL set-up, so there wasn't even a network cable I could plug in. And to be honest there really wasn't a lot of time for doing e-mail and stuff like this anyway.

So after I got home, I answered a few messages and sent out some updates, helped run the softball clinics on Sunday and was back at my desk and trying to get caught up on Monday and Tuesday.

When I talked to Mom on Monday night, she seemed pretty stressed out and more than a little angry about how things were going: She was getting a different surgeon than the one she'd been talking to, a different cardiologist would be taking over her case after the bypass , and they trying to move her to the room she'd be in when she came out of surgery. She didn't even want to talk to my youngest daughter Sarah — just asked me to tell her that she loved her.

Since Mom and I (and my daughter Rosie and my late grandfather) share essentially the same personality, I could imagine how she was feeling. I would have been wound up and ticked off too. When Mike and I were up there, the most troubling about the care she was (or wasn't) getting was the uncertainty. It seemed like no one was quarterbacking things, and that a lot of what was going on had more to do with the hospital bureaucracy and scheduling convenience than it did health care delivery and her best interests.

She was supposed to go into surgery at 8:30 AM yesterday (7:30 her time), but because they had some concerns about the ventilator tube that they needed to put in while she was under (she'd basically told the nurses the other day that she'd try to yank it out because it made her claustrophobic, anesthesia or no), they wanted to check the records of her last surgery at the local hospital to see how she tolerated it there. And the answer was that she tolerated it — at least until she got into recovery, which was where she said she tried to remove it.

But all of that took time and someone else got in the queue ahead of her, so she didn't go in until about 10:50 AM. They told us to expect her to be in there for 4-6 hours. Paul called to update me around mid-afternoon, to say things were going well — about as they expected. But when I hadn't heard anything more by 5 PM, I was getting a little worried.

Paul finally called at around 6 PM, while we were waiting for Rosie to finish softball practice up at the Complex. He said it went pretty well, that she got through the surgery okay—quadruple bypass (instead of triple) and they did replace the iffy valve with a mechanical one. He said she'd probably be kind of out of it and would likely be on the ventilator for 5-6 hours, but was expected to do okay. I asked him to give me a call and an update this morning.

The update this morning wasn't so encouraging. Mom's in ICU and they can't seem to get her blood pressure back up. They've gave her 3 units of blood overnight and are using four medications to try to get her pressure up where it should be. According to Paul, they're giving her "maximum support." She's also got some kind of external pacemaker and is still on the ventilator, in that kind of dopey, post-op haze. So she may not even know what's going on, although Paul says she turns toward my sister Betsy's voice and wiggles her toes.

Meanwhile, Kathleen — who is probably the world's most efficient Googler when it comes to medical stuff — found this, which may or may not be relevant, although Mom does have a bunch of the risk factors they associate with it:

Postoperative bradyarrhythmias, heart rhythm disturbances where the heart beats too slow, require permanent pacemaker implantation in 0.8 to 4 percent of patients. Risk factors include concomitant valve surgery, older age, preexisting bundle branch block (abnormalities in the conduction system that alter the flow of electrical impulses through the heart), certain solutions used to arrest the heart beat during surgery, and long duration of time on the heart-lung machine.

And a few minutes ago, I ran into Sandra — my colleague, friend and boss — out in the hall, and she told me that her father had gone through a similar thing after his bypass surgery (including getting "Code Blue" and the paddles three times) and he got through it okay, although the first few days were touch and go.

So both of those things give me some cause for hope. Which reminds me, and RN named Hope, who actually works in a cardiothoracic ICU and is a member of one of Captain Marvel e-mail lists I belong to, also sent me an encouraging private note this morning.

Mike just called and gave me an update: They backed off one of the meds by 50% and nothing changed, which they think is a good thing (as opposed to her pressure dropping, I suppose). They also said she's able to breath a little on her own, but that they'll keep her on "assisted breathing" for now so her body doesn't get exhausted from just trying to breathe. And basically, the message is that while this isn't common, it's not unusual either. Some people take longer to recover after you saw open their sternum, stop their heart and hook them to a machine for a few hours. Imagine that.

In any case, there are a lot of folks out here who are pulling for, praying for, thinking about and sending good thoughts for my mom, and that's very much appreciated. Now all she's gotta do is get well so I can tell her about all the attention she's been getting...

20 March 2006

The Legend of Arnold

March 24, 2016: I originally posted this a little more than ten years ago (March 20, 2006) on a MySpace blog. It was during a kind of outburst of enthusiasm for blogging on my part, across that and this site. When MySpace decided to shut down their blogging feature, they let users download their old posts. I grabbed mine—there only were three—and am reposting them here, in the correct spot on the "timeline," but annotated to explain where they came from.

Back in the late seventies, I was a freelance artist/designer. One of my regular gigs was as the "Advertising Assistant" at the St. Croix Boom Company, a former bowling alley, turned night club on Main Street, Stillwater, Minnesota.

I had an apartment directly across the street from the Boom Co., upstairs from the printer that did most of their advertising materials. It was a handy place to be, both for access to the club and to deliver the artwork when it was ready to go. An older guy named Arnold

Anyway, Arnold was slowly descending into mental illness. He was quite open about how he got messages about his life over the radio and from the jukebox that non-existent people were coming to visit him, or were out to get him and eventually he just snapped.

It was a Sunday, and all afternoon I was hearing this kind of flat "crack" noise coming from Arnold's apartment. It sounded like someone slapping a broomstick down on a counter. I didn't know whether he had a gun, but decided it probably was better NOT to go over there and ask. So I went about my business.

Late that afternoon, a buddy of mine Tom "Jake" Jacobson who'd recently gotten out of the Marine Corps came by to visit, and I asked him if that sound could be gunshots.

"Nahh," he told me. Still, I was starting to wonder.

Jake left, and a few hours later, my roommate, Greg Johnson, got home. I heard him running up the stairs, then he slammed the door and locked it and said something to the effect of, "That crazy SOB is shooting up the place back there!"

We were still discussing what to do when the knock came at the door. We decided not to open it and to pretend that nobody was home.

After a lot of knocking, then a lot of uncomfortable silence, we heard Arnold head down the stairs toward the street. We turned off the lights behind us and peeked around the curtains, out the window.

Yes, Arnold was carrying a pistol in his hand. He took a couple of random shots at streetlights (he missed), glanced up at our window, then he went into the Boom Co., across the street.

We immediately called the bar and got Tony, the manager on the line. I asked him if Arnold was there.

"Yes."

I asked if he had a gun.

"Yes."

I asked if I should call the police.

"No, that probably wouldn't be a good idea right now."

I asked what we should do.

"Why don't I get back to you on that."

Click.

I found out later what was going on. Arnold had come into the place, sat down at the bar, and put a couple of rounds into the wall in the middle of an old horse collar that was hanging above the bar "to let them know he was serious."

Then he started rambling about how the messages from the radio and jukebox weren't letting him sleep, how he hadn't eaten for days, how people were coming over and standing outside of his door and banging pans together when he was trying to sleep, how my roommate was sneaking into Arnold's apartment with strange women and having sex with them in the shower, how he thought I was "okay" when I first moved in up there, but now he knew I was "the cabbage man," and that he knew Tony was "in it" with me.

Obviously, no one wants to hear a guy with a gun talking like that.

Fortunately, being a Sunday night with no band playing, there were only a handful of folks in the place, among them a guy we all called "Crazy Eddie." Eddie's father was a successful businessman (I think he owned a car dealership), but Eddie himself was more of a ne'er-do-well and a local character. He was the kind of guy who drank too much every night, and who might try to punch out a window at your apartment as he was leaving a party, while at the same time thanking you for inviting him. You were never quite sure what he was going to do. But he was also a fiercely loyal friend to Tony and saw himself as kind of a guardian angel of the Boom Co. in general.

So Eddie sat down at the bar right next to Arnold.

"Nice piece, Arnie. Can I see it?"

Arnold handed him the gun!

Eddie empathized with Arnold's troubles for a minute, then suggested they walk up to the Oasis Café (just up the highway outside of downtown) to get something to eat. Arnold said okay. Eddie put the gun in his pocket, and they headed out. Tony called the police.

Arnold never got to the Oasis, but presumably they fed him at the jail.

As it turned out, Arnold had a whole arsenal back in his apartment. He'd spent the afternoon shooting up a makeshift skylight he had in the ceiling there, and when he got tired of that, he shot out the window that overlooked the back roof, where we'd walk out to drop our trash into the dumpster below.

He told the police he'd shot "someone" out there, and as they came up the stairs to check out his story, I heard one of them complaining, "I don't need this on a Sunday night." I had to wonder what night would have been any better?

Fortunately, there was no body out there, it was just another of Arnold's delusions. The police confiscated all of the guns, and Arnold went away to the psych ward on the eighth floor of St. Paul-Ramsey Hospital for a couple of months.

During Arnold's stay over there, I got a call from Tony. Arnold's doctor wanted Tony and I to come over and "visit" with Arnold, as part of his treatment. We got there, and one of the things that the doctor told us to prepare us was that Arnold told him he'd been part of a "mop-up" squad during WWII, that went around knocking on doors in German towns, then shooting whoever answered.

I have no idea whether that was true, or if there even was such a thing, but the troubling part was that Arnold THOUGHT it was true, and that he'd come knocking on MY door with a pistol in his hand.

The meeting was...interesting. Arnold basically glared at us the whole time, while the doctor asked him questions like, "You know now that these fellows aren't any sort of threat to you, right?" and "You don't want to hurt them, do you?" Arnold answered in monosyllables, obviously saying whatever it was he thought seemed likely to get him out of there.

I left convinced that if Arnold DID get out, I was going to have to move. And sure enough, a few weeks later, we got word that he was coming back, and that our well-meaning landlady was going to allow him to move back into the same apartment.

Arnold was going to be on medication that supposedly would keep him "normal," and there was going to be a van that would pick him up every couple of days to take him to get the shot, since he couldn't be trusted to take that medication on his own.

Greg O'Malley who was also living downtown, at the north end of Main Street in a place that had become known as "The Ghetto," basically swapped apartments with us, because he didn't figure in any of Arnold's paranoid fantasies and didn't think he'd be in any danger from the guy. O'Malley's place was far enough away that I figured there was enough distance to keep me out of Arnold's way and off his radar.

Eventually Arnold started missing his meds and getting weird again. I heard he once again was stockpiling weapons from St. Croix Outfitters, which was only about half a block from his apartment. And legendary Boom Co. bartender Mike Seggelke, who was kind of Arnold's self-appointed minder for a while, took GREAT delight in looking over my shoulder and saying, "Oh, hi Arnie," when Arnold was nowhere to be seen.

Eventually Arnold had the hemorrhage or whatever it was that killed him, and I guess they found him under the outside steps behind John's Bar, next door to the print shop over which he still had his apartment.

The story went around for a few hours that I'd killed him, and I suppose that might have sounded believable since Arnold was found outdoors and since a number of people had heard my roommate and I promise one another (always after a few drinks) that if Arnold got the other guy, the survivor would get Arnold.

But I was a dozen miles away, at work, when it all happened. No Mark, no ice pick, and a rather mundane ending to what was a pretty unusual time.

Doin' those things we do

With three daughters, it seems like our family has something going on every night, and some nights different things for each daughter: volunteering at church and their schools, Kathleen running three Girl Scout troops, me serving as the president and she as secretary of the board of the local girls' softball club. So we kind of go through life juggling.

One of the things that really helps is finding friends and other parents who are willing to pitch in, to volunteer with the troops or the club, to pick up or drop off our kids, or to just have them spend the night before they're all supposed to go someplace.

This weekend has been a pretty good example. On Friday night after work, Kathleen drove over to Grand Ledge top watch Rosie perform in the high school concert band competition, while I went home and fell asleep in the recliner.

I was supposed to be taking Emmy and her friend Alisha shopping for the various supplies they were going to need the next morning for the softball club round-up and pancake breakfast, an event that they organized as their Silver Award project for Girl Scouts. But it was a long and busy week, so I dozed off. And Emmy let me sleep until Kathleen got home.

Then we all went out and did the shopping—Sam's Club, Wal-Mart, Kroger and Meijer, each place for different things that the girls had researched and identified as the best prices for what we were going to need—after which we went over to the high school to pick up Rosie at a little after 10 PM when the bus brought her and the rest of the band back from Grand Ledge. (They did well over there, BTW—scored all "ones," which is the top score.)

When we got home, we unpacked all the groceries and then repacked and arranged them with the roaster oven, the griddle, a couple of coolers, various utensils and other stuff we were going to need the next day. By around 11 PM, the rest of us went to bed, while Emmy and Alisha stayed up and worked on some posters. Alisha spent the night at our house, so we all could be back at the high school at 7:30 AM to start setting up for the breakfast.

That meant we were up at about 5:30 AM on Saturday to get everyone ready and pack the cars, so we could be over at the high school a little before 7:30. But it was worth it. We had a little better turnout than we'd hoped for (we planned for about 75 and got about 80), signed up 30 girls (including a handful of newcomers to the club—more registrations this early than any time in recent memory), and made back all of our expenses plus about a hundred bucks, which was good because this was intended as a marketing event, not a fundraiser, and it was possible that it would end up costing us money.

Best of all were all the coaches and parents who came out and volunteered, assuring that everyone got fed and that anyone with any questions about teams or leagues could get them answered by someone who was actually involved in the club.

After getting everything cleaned up and cleared out, we went home and put away all of the stuff. I updated the club website, then headed back out to take Emmy (and her friend Elena) shopping for an outfit to wear to the symphony on her middle school band trip to Chicago this coming weekend.

Emmy is a good kid, and has learned to be responsible about stuff like this. She actually did the research online and found some slacks and a shirt that were on sale at JCPenney. As it turned out, she got a different shirt—silk, regularly $50, marked down to $15—and the slacks that were on sale for $20 were marked down to $15 as well. Kathleen picked up a couple of other things, and that totaled enough to reach the $50 threshold, which meant we could use a $10 off coupon that the cashier directed us to. Then we got 15% off the final price for using the Penney's card. By the time we left the store, I was wondering if they were going to have to pay us to carry the stuff away!

Next it was down to the Girl Scout cookie booth at Sam's Club on the south end of town, where Emmy and Elena had to work for two hours. When Emmy got home, we took her over to Alisha's house to spend the night. (She was invited for dinner as well, but they were having fish and Emmy doesn't like fish, so she kinda dragged her feet. As you might imagine, Fridays during Lent are tough on her.)

Next I headed over to Kroger to do a little more grocery shopping—we'd invited some friends to join us for a late St. Patrick's Day celebration with corned beef and cabbage on Sunday night. By the time I got home, I fell into bed and didn't get up until nearly 8 the next morning.

It was actually a pretty quiet morning on Sunday. I checked my e-mail, did another update on the website, had some breakfast, got a shower, then headed over to the high school again for the weekly softball skills clinics.

It was a beautiful morning, a little chilly, but bright sunshine and whiff of spring floating on the breeze. So naturally we spent the next couple of hours indoors. But it was a useful couple of hours, probably the best single day we ever had at the clinics in terms of kids attending and coaches and parents showing up to help out.

We had a huge crop of first-time pitchers, and that’s a good thing. Most of them were girls who will be playing U10 this summer—the age when they start pitching—and one of the goals we have is to develop not only players, but pitchers who can one day pitch on the high school teams. Pitchers win the games for you in softball, and the more we develop, the more successful both our program and the high school program will be in coming years. We also had two batting cages going in the auxiliary gym, and a handful of coaches in there, taking them through some work on the batting tees, then soft toss, and then into the cage. Good pitching is important, but you have to score runs to win as well.

Emmy and Alisha missed the clinics this week, because they were working at the cookie booth. Rosie brought her friend Kam, who is playing softball for the first time on the high school team. Sarah was there as well, her usual autonomous self, going from station to station on her own, working on her hitting, her throwing and her catching.

I heard good things about all three girls who were there.

Rosie’s summer coach told me she saw improvement in Rosie since the last clinics two weeks ago, most likely attributable to her practicing every day with the high school team. None of my daughters are particularly gifted when it comes to natural athletic ability, so it makes me proud when they work hard and are successful as they’ve been.

I heard from two different coaches that Kam was doing well, and that she listens when they coach her and seems to pick stuff up pretty fast. She’s a martial artist and a good learner, so I’m confident she has what it takes to be a good player, despite her lack of experience.

And Sarah’s coach said she did a great job in the batting cage, really hitting the ball. That was good, because she didn’t hit much last year, although in the tournament, when they really needed a hit from her to keep the rally going at the end of the championship game, she came through and they won.

After the clinic, I headed back out to the grocery store. I’d invited Alisha’s family to join us for dinner as well, so now we were up to 14 people and I needed a couple more things. Then it was back home to make Irish soda bread and rice pudding. I had the corned beef already cooking in two crockpots up on the counters and a big casserole dish in the oven, each one with a different mix of vegetables; cabbage, red potatoes, carrots and onions. There was even a little garlic in one dish, although I’m not sure garlic is typically part of Irish cooking. But I find it hard to cook without garlic.

Meanwhile, Kathleen worked on laundry and finished cleaning the house, then was off to the cookie booth again, from 4-6 PM.

People started showing up at 7, we served the food by 7:30, and everyone was fed and on the way home by around 10. We didn’t play Apples to Apples, which disappointed Rosie, but these are folks we really like, so it was good just sitting with them, talking and kind of unwinding. Kathleen and I worked on the dishes, and for the first time since Thursday night, we went to bed with all of our daughters home and with no extras.

Anyway, I was reminded over the weekend that I’ve been working somewhere for the last 36 years, since I was 14 years old.

I started in a movie theater as a janitor and an usher for $15 a week back in 1969, and helped out a friend of mine at a local bakery a few times a week, in return for him helping out at the theater on particularly busy days. From there I went to work in a bed factory, at a ski resort, and back to the theater again, this time as assistant manager.

In the early seventies, I tried going to college for a few years, but bailed out in flames in early 1976 because my heart wasn’t in it and my GPA was bottoming out. I stumbled across a temporary job in a community college bookstore in March of that year, and parlayed that into a regular civil service job there by August, after spending the summer working on the river boat.

That December I began freelancing as a advertising designer, brought a friend of mine out from NYC to help me manage the workload in fall of 1977, and eventually opened up a Studio 1050 in downtown St. Paul for a couple of years in the early eighties, where I hired a variety of freelancers, including, for a time, my dad. I closed the studio but kept freelancing when I went back to college to finally get my degree, and kept working in the bookstore at least three-quarter time during the entire period, even when I eventually went to work on a retainer as an art director for a direct marketing company in Minneapolis for a few years. Then I was hired by the Foreign Service in late 1988.

I served in the Foreign Service—in both Washington, DC and Mexico City—until summer of 1993, getting married to Kathleen (who was a fellow officer) and having two kids along the way. When we left government service and moved to Texas, I became “Mr. Mom,” but also opened a home-based business called River City Advertising and freelanced for local businesses around central Texas, as well as for a I guy I knew from back in Minneapolis, who was now out in San Diego.

When we moved to Indiana, we had a third daughter and I kept on as Mr. Mom, but continued freelancing (dumping the River City name and going back to calling myself Studio 1050).

And a few months after we moved up to Michigan, I started freelancing here as well, picking up a contract with a local school district that ran from just before Thanksgiving to mid-March. A year later I got hired by Michigan State, which was the end of being Mr. Mom. But I still do some freelance work for my pal out in San Diego.

People tell me I’m a team player and that I work hard. I think I do a good job at the things I undertake. I’ll also admit to being an organizer, but I like to think that’s because when I see something that needs doing, I want to help get it done. And if I can get others to join me, it’s going to get done quicker.

My oldest daughter and I were talking about softball this weekend, and one of the things that came up was another player who was on one of our teams—a skilled, even gifted athlete—who I always thought had the capacity to be a leader, but who never led. And we talked about another girl who was on the same team who had a lot less skill, but who was never afraid to speak up and take charge when the team started to lose its focus.

I have no idea what it is that makes people do what they do. I don’t think people set out to be leaders (or not be leaders), I think they just respond as they’re able to the needs of situations in which they find themselves—they offer what they have.

Kathleen and I have been married for 16+ years now, and when people say that’s pretty good, I tell them that our secret is that I just do what I’m told. And while that might be a bit of an exaggeration, that is my comfort zone. I’d much rather have someone else do the thinking and the planning and just tell me what they need me to do. I’d rather be part of the team. But that’s not always possible in every situation, so when something needs to get done and no one is stepping forward, I’ll go ahead and do it and try to get others to join me.

And near as I can tell, that’s what I’ve been doing for the last 36 years.